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Fitness Cures a Broken Heart. Advice from My Healing Heart to Yours.


 

The video speaks for itself. This is how I deal with sadness from a broken heart...

I tried making a "talking" video but I kept breaking down. So I decided to use these signs instead and spare you the tears and sniffles.

Sweating is a healthier way to cry and I hope my story convinces you of that, and helps you through any kind of similar situation...not that I wish it upon you. Heartbreak is truly the worst. Everything'll Be Alright (the song you hear playing in the background) is by my friend Joshua Radin. I always turn to it whenever I need reminding of this very message. It's a good one, isn't it?

Thanks for watching and agreeing to support eachother when sad times hit.

Please leave me a comment below and tell me how you cope through heartbreak. Feel free to share the good and the bad, like I did.

 

written by Bianca Jade a.k.a Mizzfit

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14 comments
Jenae (@YogaEatRun) July 22nd, 2012 12:16AM

Omgosh girl I'm sooo sorry you're going through a heartbreak!! I'm totally all for supporting you through this time! You're brave for making this video and being so open with everybody, stay strong, keep living every day in the present! You're bright, beautiful and brilliant inside and out! And it's okay to cry just treat yourself right with lots of chocolate and a bubble bath and maybe a new manecure!! Stay strong! love u!!

MizzFIT July 22nd, 2012 8:09PM

Hi Janae,

Thank you, love! Well, my life is now a window...so why not? If learning how to cope through my struggles helps someone else, then I'm all for sharing the "bumps" along my road. I really do appreciate your kind words. Trying to lay off the chocolate and eat fresh fruits though as I prefer natural sugars anyway. And I trade bubble baths for hot power yoga with a cold, invigorating shower afterwards. We all have our ways...and YES, I plan to stay strong! You rock!

xoxo,

MizzFIT

Jenae (@YogaEatRun) July 22nd, 2012 8:27PM

"Trying to lay off the chocolate and eat fresh fruits though as I prefer natural sugars anyway. And I trade bubble baths for hot power yoga with a cold, invigorating shower afterwards. "

Omg that sounds a lot more healthy and enriching! love it girly!!

MizzFIT July 22nd, 2012 8:38PM

Well...

I'm not ALWAYS so good. I actually just ate some Nerds. Ooops! They just happened to accost me from the pantry. I had to surrender. Thank god hot power yoga is fo-sure on my agenda today!!! Love ya girlie!

MizzFIT

Amy July 25th, 2012 9:12PM

My heart reaches out to you. Hugs!!! I understand what you're going through. We've all been there. I'm the same way, though I lay in bed and mope for a bit more for a day. Once that's over though, I use the time to not only work on myself physically, but heal myself spiritually as well. While I'm working out, I let myself zone out or meditate to release the emotional stress and worries from the heartache. When I'm done, I have a clear mind to look at my situation in a rational way, and see how I can make myself stronger (both physically and spiritually) from the situations. I take my post-workout time to see what lessons I can learn and carry with me into the rest of my life. I'm going through something similar now, but on a smaller scale, and realizing the issues from my last long term relationship that I never got over. Going on runs/walking/strength training gives me the clarity I need to work through those issues.

MizzFIT July 28th, 2012 2:28AM

Hi Amy,

Exactly...we've all been there, so true. And if someone didn't mope for a day or 2 or even 3, I'd think they were a robot. Wouldn't you?

Meditation is an excellent way to distract yourself or rather "let go" of bothersome, unhealthy and sad thoughts. I'm not so good at sitting down and meditating, but I love YOGA!!! So this is how I focus inward in an active but very relaxing way.

What are you going through? I'm curious but not sure if you want to share?? What were the issues you never got over? Are you in a relationship now? How is it different? You know, they say every past relationship is a stepping stone to the one you're meant to be in...and that we must learn from them and never regret them because they are part of a journey to love. Agree? Disagree? I'd love to hear more from you.

Thanks so much for your comment and I'm sending good vibes to you.

Kindly,

Bianca Jade/MizzFIT

Amy July 28th, 2012 6:43AM

Bianca Jade,
I had my heart broken back in January by a man that I thought I was going to marry. I found out he was cheating on me in December, and I left him. He begged and begged for another chance, so I gave it to him, only to find out he was still with the other woman. I had a rough go for about 2 months and started dating again in June. I was with the same person for about a month, when he realized that he wasn't ready for a relationship due to issues from his previous break up. That made me step back and look at myself and I realized I have abandonment issues from my last relationship that I never dealt with that I was, unfairly, bringing into this one. The new boy and I are still friendly, but we both realize we're not ready to get into anything because we both have things to work on. The hardest thing for me now is realizing that the man I left behind and haven't contacted in over six months is still keeping me from being happy. I'm struggling with letting him, and all he did to me, go. I completely agree with everything you say. I found great help in reading Iyanla VanZant's "In the Meantime." It helped me to begin to forgive him, and myself. She focuses on the idea that no one is really to blame, and we all love the best we can, in the situation we are in.

Yoga has been my saving grace :)

Still sending you love,

Amy

MizzFIT July 29th, 2012 8:55PM

Dearest Amy,

I am so sorry to hear that you were terribly lied to and betrayed. It sucks, doesn't it? And it hurts. And you MUST always give yourself time to feel that because if you don't, it gets bottled up and explodes later when you least expect it or want it to. I don't blame you for giving guy#1 another chance because as women, that's often what we do. We want to forgive...hope for change...think that our loved one will make it up to us. It's natural. But it doesn't always work out the way our hearts want it to, does it? What I love about your story is that you were able to do something different in the next relationship with guy#2. You were able to evaluate the situation better. And it seems that even though it didn't culminate in a perfect love-match, that you discovered what you most needed was TIME. Because time really does heal. And I believe more than anything that if we accept the things life puts in our path, then we are well on our way to a better place. Meaning, you just can't fight what isn't meant to be. It's life sending us a message and that message is none other than: MOVE ON, GIRL, THE BEST IS YET TO COME!!!! In case you're looking for something else to read that's intensely inspirational, I recommend picking up THE PROPHET by Kahlil Gibran. It's one of my faves and I keep it on my nightstand.

Thank you so much for sharing, Amy. I feel your love and sending a bunch of my own your way.

-Bianca Jade/MizzFIT

Lindy August 1st, 2012 3:31PM

I love, love, love what you did...I found myself smiling at your creative and SO perfectly done video. The signage and the music, totally in sync (even though your life isn't) all the while wearing adorbs workout clothes and make-up.
I don't even look that good on a day without pain!!!
You are so going viral with this video, I'm putting it on my instructor Facebook page right now.
BTW, you're going to be fine...

MizzFIT August 1st, 2012 6:15PM

Hi Lindy,

You are so kind for watching the video and sharing your thoughts. And most of all, thanks for re-posting it! Funny how some things are so in sync when others just are ARE NOT. But that's life...the ebb and flow of it all, right? I don't hate it or resent it...I just try and let it carry me where I'm supposed to be. A lot of life is accepting the things that happen to us and doing are darn-est to make the best tasting lemonade out of it. And you're absolutely right, I will be fine. Thank you for being such an amazing spirit and lovely person to network with!!! So glad we met at IdeaFIT last year!!!!

Bianca Jade/MizzFIT

Christy August 1st, 2012 6:55PM

I wish I had seen this video when I was younger. I probably did all the opposite of focusing on "me". You live and you learn, right? I find that exercise helps in a major way during a break up. Those endorphins really do their job! I'm sorry to hear about your heartbreak- but you are definitely moving forward in the right direction by focusing on yourself! PS- this was a great way to convey a powerful message! Love the music too! You'll be alright. :)

MizzFIT August 1st, 2012 7:37PM

Hi Christy!

So glad I made the video just to hear all this positive feedback and support from women just like you! I was nervous about making the video at first, because I didn't want it to be about "the relationship" I had lost. I wanted it to be about how I was going to turn my situation around when I felt like crap. It's kind of like tricking your brain and yes, those endorphins are quite powerful little things that do magical things for us in the end! The best kind of drugs that I can never get enough of!!!! Thank you thank you thank you for leaving me a comment and telling me what you think of the video. I'm glad that my personal life isn't completely boring or meaningless to the people I have dedicated my life to inspiring. You made my day.

xoxo,

MizzFIT

Tamara August 21st, 2012 4:20PM

Aww, I am so sorry you are going through this. I liked the signs but the song is so sad and tender it brought tears to my eyes. I agree the best way to get over heartbreak is to be kind to yourself and get moving! Those natural endorphins from working out are a cure like no other. Happy music helps too . . . "hello, good morning" anyone? . . .

MizzFIT August 21st, 2012 5:09PM

HI Tamara,

You are so sweet. Yeah, it's a sad song. Joshua Radin actually wrote it as a lullaby right after 9-11. But I think it has a happy theme and I also believe that happiness can grow out of sadness too. I'm 100% with you on the endorphins. I've been working out every day since the breakup. Staying on my feet is the best pick me up and keeps me from ruminating too much on the past...even though it still happens from time to time. If you're talking about the "hello, good morning" song, I love it!

I also love you for leaving a comment. Please keep visiting mizzfit.com!

xoxo, MizzFIT

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